I think that the kids must be feeling fairly secure with both of you now so that they can let down their own walls. I know it probably doesn't seem that way but I believe it to be true. My kids were trying so hard to support me that they actually stopped being kids for a while. I knew they felt I was better when they started to get into trouble for doing stupid kid stuff again!
I take that as a good sign.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory