Thanks so much for your input. I think Cyrena is right though. My H's parents are divorced and are remarried to other people. This happened over 34 years ago. My H is the youngest of 4. He was always pushed around from parent to parent. The other 3 wanted to be with their mother and no where near their father even to this day.
Anyway, no matter what was going on my H would stop doing what he was doing or what we had plans to do to do whatever his step-mother and father wanted him to do and same goes with his mother and step-father.
A long story short, when H left his father's house at 18 and moved back in with his mother his father stopped talking to him. We got married years later and his mother pushed for it, I was the best thing that came around. I had a 4 year old S and was D'd. Then around 1 1/2 years later H wanted to adopt my S, and he heard his mother and sister talking about it and where throwing a fit! So needless to say he stopped talking to his mother after he told her off.
Then he makes up with his father, and they claimed to love me and the kids (we had our D13 by then) so much. So his depression hits, I didn't see it coming and he flips out and I have him removed and first place he went was to his father's. It was like it was all planned. I called pharmacy and H was 3 1/2 weeks behind on his refill for AD's so I told the step-mother this and she says prove it, blah blah blah. So I prove it, but she rules every thing and every one. Her own D34 says she has always been like that, so they take H in and take control of his life.
After 6 months they set him up in an apartment about 1 mile away from them and he lives there for 3 months and realizes (I think), that they really don't care about him because they weren't coming to see him or anything. So next he makes up with his mother and moves closer to her and now everyone is involved in our M.
D13 says his mother is just as bad if not worse with the way she treats H. She tells him what to do and when to do it. I just get a kick out of MLC'er's saying LBS's controlled them and all along it was someone else, in my case it was H's mother and step-mother and he's still letting this go on.
Like Cyrena said, I guess there is nothing I can do to make H see all of this, and he will have to find out on his own, if he ever comes out of it. I'm just praying that the AD's work and the fog starts to lift and H starts to see his way back to his family, not the family that raised him!
