Alb - I am so sorry for your tough week. I am so appreciative to have this board as well and to know there are people out there struggling through the EXACT situations. It sure feels lonely in my "real world." I feel so disconnected to how the friends I have had for 17 years here now live - because I am the only one currently separated or "not married."
The wedding thing will not be easy. I have been a part of my BILs life since he was 9 and now he has cut that tie. He is my H's only true support at this time. I definitely let him know I was not looking for anyone to join Team H or Team Me - but I don't think anyone can truly mediate an MLC situation. So I plan to keep communicating during holidays, birthdays, etc. Looking down the road I am hoping that no matter what happens - if I have stayed consistent then maybe there won't be so many broken relationships to mend.
I was also thinking about you and the wedding and the fact that your D is at such a great age for these kinds of events. Immerse yourself in her joy and share the beauty of these moments with her. I so don't want my kids to get a bad impression of what an amazing step a marriage truly is.
Keep posting!
M-48/XH-48 M=25/T=28 years Ds-24,22/S-18 D - 3/11 A Day at a Time
