Have you started to look for other places to live?? Have you left any realtor cards lying around?
I did something along those lines.
First I told her after a nice evening out that I really had a good time the night before and got her to smile and agree. Then I dropped my little grenade and told her that she should start taking my name off all household bills and accounts (which she has not done as of today) and stop calling me because she needs to live like I was not there anymore.(The latter actually has had an opposite reaction. She now calls all the time to let me know when she's coming and going. Most of the time I let it roll into voicemail.)
The grenade was a bit of a shock. The loving smile about the good time a night before was replaced with tears. I walked away composed. She never saw me dropping a tear myself.
Then the same night I left my laptop open to the page for job seeking in Australia. She came home and I pretended that I got distracted by the dogs needing to go out and left the page on the screen. I saw her reading in through the window while I was out in the yard.
Next I sent her an e-mail a few days later complimenting her communications and for being so much nicer to get along. Then mentioned that I will most likely leave the country once my car lease is done in 7 months. I know it set a time frame but it is also a reality. She has no reason not to believe that I would not do that.
I know it is not as dramatic as driving away with all the pets in my car, but what has been happening in last 2 weeks has been amazing 180 from her part.
She may not have changed her mind about our R, but she shows respect and admiration for my dropping the rope. I think it is attractive to her and attraction creates warmth which just may turn things around eventually.
Time and patience in on my side. I am fully in control of myself and my actions thanks to all of you here.
