Thanks for your reply luvless. I guess the question I have is why should I spend a bunch of energy on trying to find out if he is having an affair? What does it change? If he is with someone else, it seems he would be more likely to eventually find the faults in this person than he ever would of the ideal fantasy he has in his mind.
I hear you suggesting that I cut him off as a friend but is this really divorce-busting? My normal behavior is to just walk away and cut him off... a problem that has been something he has dealt with in the past. The opposite of that would be what I am doing now. I don't contact him, I let him contact me. He keeps contacting me to do these things... I understand it very well and probably is out of guilt. I'm not arguing with your advice, I have thought of doing exactly what you are suggesting as this is the most natural action to me. I want to gain understanding of your perspective so please elaborate.
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
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