And what is the answer - what can I do to change that? What should be my immediate actions apart from GAL? At the moment i am mainly working on shifting my attitude so that is not so apparent how much i am hurting - no more chasing around after her like a puppy dog, no more shows of affection wghen i get little in return, being pleasant and conversational but not going out of my way to chase after her.
Hey, VJ.
The answer to that, IMO, is enforcing firm boundaries. If she knows she doesn't have to respect your boundaries, she will continue to walk all over you. The EA must end or your M doesn't have 2 legs to stand on. That is a fact.
