Blue: 4 years?! ugh. Not sure I could do 4 years. Well, not without seeing some sort of progression. I guess right now it's just got to be one day at a time, huh?
As for bedroom activity, there has been some. I vacilate on that one because on one hand, I agree with what you're saying and I know it can help ignite the spark. Well, and I have those needs too, so it's not like I mind filling them. On the other hand, I ask myself why I should be engaging in that when H can't even say ILY - or won't, or whatever. Part of me holds back to maintain that sense of detachment as I wrestle with this dilemma. I'm a willing participant yet I know I hold back.
Allen: I agree...it was pretty racy so - yeah, I can see the bias! Well, dang. It's not like I haven't been naked at times too! (See above. lol) I just found it interesting that he could have empathy for her feelings and say that out loud with no thought to me sitting here thinking, "what about me?!" Did he just not see any correlation?! As Blue said above, I guess I could bring it up maybe. I wish I would've thought of something clever to say at the time. We just have not had a R discussion in so long. I'm not sure I want to have one at the moment. I have felt that it may be best to lay off the discussions for awhile and just "live". ???
Now - you make an interesting point, Allen. In what way should I be looking out to not neglect H? Any specific thoughts on that? I definitely do not want to do so but it can be hard. On one hand there's detachment/GAL - trying to draw him to me by pulling away. On the other hand there is meeting his needs, etc... THIS is the struggle I have every day it seems, trying to do both in a balanced manner! It's HARD to reconcile these things! When I am detaching and bettering myself I start to think about how much better I deserve and how he is not treating me right. Then, I sure don't feel like meeting HIS needs! Yet, I know I need to...
Thanks for the reminder about Relationship Rescue! I need to make that a priority. I have been so busy with school work that I haven't taken the time. I will make time today to start that.
