Another long term relationship bombed

[gutwrenching]

pookie - I read most of your thread as you asked. You are getting a lot of great advice. early on Gucci was spot on and Coach has been chiming in the whole time with increadible insight.

I do know what you are going through and feeling. The rollercoaster is not fun. There are many similarities to what I went through. You have to decide where you want to go from here.

Your W is not sure she wants to leave, otherwise she would have gone or expedited you leaving. I suspect she thinks the grass is greener on the other side and would like to be able to test it out while still holding onto you because she now sees you really aren't that bad of an option. You can wait this out a bit and see if she comes around without being slapped with reality of life witout Pookie. It may or may not happen. I also wouldn't give her all 4 dogs...you helping grass be greener on the other side. If/when you leave, she needs to feel the loss of life as she knows it...the more the loss the better. Thats my 2 cents. In my sitch, me literally driving away with the kids in the car was powerful. W told me she just stood there and watched and cried...

The WAS is often in their own la-la land...they don't see reality...reality must smack them upside the face and then see how they react to that.