How should I handle MLC direct lying?

[Truegritter]

I no longer see any way I'd want to be with him again.

Why? Because...

He has disrespected me and our marriage (and himself) so many times over, and his 8 MONTHS ON NON ACTION, of any kind, to move away from me or toward me, seems like to final straw for me.

This looks like like a lot of expectattion on your part with a timeline he knew nothing about.

I understand your frustrated and that you want more for your life.

I only want you to look at the reasons you decide this and if you are making them because H did or didn't do something well then...

I really have no desire to spend time w him anyway. The person I loved no longer exists.

Yes he does he is just confused and finding his way. May not be what you want, how you want it, or when you want it.

It is what it is.

but I feel I've sufficiently warned him.

So this let's you off the hook?

Well his actions show that that is not true, but whatever.

What are yours saying about you? What is true for you?

That you can have expectations that were not communicated and that he probably wouldn't abide if they were communicated...

and you can hold on to those until such time as he doesn't sufficiently meet them?

I've warned him and won't feel guilty

Be sure you tell whoever you end up with next that this^^^^ is a condition to your relationship.

Amg, I not trying to pee in your corn flakes.

I am just telling you what I see.

There comes a day when this thing that we endeavor to do no longer is about our spouse or our M and the outcome.

It is about our journey and what we need to learn.

If you have learned all you need learn and

you are satisfied making choices for yourself based on and because of the actions or inactions of another person.

Then the barn door is and has always been open.

What was your goal in coming here? Has it changed?

Should it have changed?