Isn't it brilliant when our kids become our friends when they grow up. My son is the same ... I can have adult conversations and debates with him now. He is such an interesting person. And so are my daughters.
You have more than overcome ... you have thrived. I don't feel you have any anger or resentment anymore either ... not even for son. I could be wrong, of course, but your posts are so much lighter and happier even when you mention XH.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
Absolutely! I couldn't have made it this far if not for my kids, blood and step alike. My daughters are wonderful. My sons are great. At least I know we ( my H & me ) did something right together.
just an update, all remains quiet in the sitch. one thing that has come to my attention though is this, the lady who is now cleaning for ex;s old aunt asked if I could be friends with her on fb, i made friends with her as thought it was in the interest of the old aunt, this friend came online on saturday night and disclosed to tell me that my ex was no saint and the fact that before he met up with the now wifey he had indeed been back to this ladys house and was wanting sex, she says they only kissed and he didnt like it when she refused sex and he left. strange me thinks that this has come to light 5 years down the line. one wonders how many more he was actually notching up on the bed stead, geez its a wonder i didnt catch a dose of something. this all goes back further than i thought, but she did disclose it was just prior to him meeting his luscious wife. whether it be a sign from god or not, this woman as made my mind up that no way no how would i ever want anything to do with ex again, in fact now I have a feeling of hatred towards him, how could he leave me at home raising his only son, go for a beer with 100% trust from me and all the time he was hopping round houses seeing who he could bed, not the man I thought he was at all, good riddance
Mandy I think many of our xh were alike this other side we nevewr saw was it b/c we thought they were someone they werent? like honest, decent Husbands and fathers or were they good men who changed? Im not sure anymore I believe mine was a con it was there way before bomb as I look back I realize there were a few occasions that pointed to cheating and I stuck my head in the mud peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
Thanks for your reply peacetoday, I dont know what it is and maybe never will, but one thing is for sure he had me blindsided for 13 years, I thought he was a decent,genuine, hardworking, honest, faithful, doting father and partner., how wrong I was, well I will never be fooled again thats for sure
Eventually, the truth bubbles up from deceit and lies. I am glad you are now aware of his shenaniggans, so that you are never tempted, even a teeny tiny bit, to take him back if that were a possibility.
The OW got what she deserved. Take care.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
((HUGS)) I've often wondered how many times I stuck my head in the sand over the years. You are definitely not alone in that regard. We all want to believe the best of the people we love. The fact that they were not those people is not a reflection on us, but rather on themselves.
