GAG, as always you have made great sense! I appreciate your ability to reflect and respond candidly and in consideration of all aspects.
GAG, I agree that H does care for me.
H took ow with him when bil and sil were here a year ago, too. Perhaps it's about him looking like he's doing ok to his family.... he's made the right decisions etc. . It's just that he doesn't seem to spend too much time with ow otherwise.... I mean he can't be with her too much by the time he spends time here and then talking to me most nights.
I'm probably inclined to speak my truth as I have been doing that recently such as when he offered to let me view a dvd of his that I knew he got from ow. I said no, it made me uncomfortable because it came from her. He said sorry. Then there was also another time recently but I can't remember it too well...will check my other thread. He wasn't happy about what I said at first but then he was fine afterwards.
I know he will say that he was upfront cos he told me he was going to dinner with bil and sil ........
I think there is now enough goodwill between us for me to speak about this.If that convo doesn't go well I will use an adaptation of Jody's words. Thanks so much GAG.
Another thought I had......perhaps it is time for me to initiate something else with H. He's not an overly social person but he might say yes to a dinner or a movie. I'm thinking more about ow being paraded out for the family dinner...seems convenient.
