Well I have spent the last week giving her space and doing my own thing - did a bike ride on Sunday, going out for a work function tonight and a play on Thursday.
In terms of boundaries - my difficulty is in knowing how to set them. There is no way my wife would move out if it meant that she was not with the kids and she knows that I do not have arrangements in place to look after my youngest. It is very difficult to enforce a boundary after you set it if your partner realises that your threats have no teeth - no likelihood of follow through.
Sandi - I totally agree - "It's all about respect and attraction. She has lost respect for you and she is no longer attracted to you. So,what can you do to change that? What can you do immediately?"
And what is the answer - what can I do to change that? What should be my immediate actions apart from GAL? At the moment i am mainly working on shifting my attitude so that is not so apparent how much i am hurting - no more chasing around after her like a puppy dog, no more shows of affection wghen i get little in return, being pleasant and conversational but not going out of my way to chase after her.
Any other thoughts would be most welcome - have ordered DB but will have to wait for a while for it to arrive in Australia
