You sound good Sunny despite the fire. Keep up with the GAL and detachment. It will help you stay sane during this "in between" time. You have a lot of positives going for you. Your H is engaged in family activities and spending time with you. You may want to lower your expectations right now. Be happy with what his IS giving you instead of focusing on what he's not. Thank him every once in awhile for doing something like spending time with you and/or the kids. Positive reinforcement doesn't just work on kids.
With the House thing, I would try to find away to slip something into a conversation that draws a parallel to your situation. It may get him thinking in a way that just hearing it from you can't. Don't forget to read Relationship Rescue. I swear it made a huge differnce in my sitch and I was the only one working on our R for 4 yrs.
Lastly, others may disagree with me, but I would keep your connection alive in the bedroom. You know he's not cheating. He is meeting you part way on some of what you want. There's nothing that will spark "feelings" in a man like sex. Just be careful that you don't let your expectations get too high afterward. Over time a physical connection is very important to inspiring the other kinds of affection that you want.
Glad you checked in. By the way, I lived 4 yrs in the limbo you're in now. It does get better.
Keep up with the GAL and detachment. It will help you stay sane during this "in between" time. You have a lot of positives going for you. Your H is engaged in family activities and spending time with you. You may want to lower your expectations right now. Be happy with what his IS giving you instead of focusing on what he's not. Thank him every once in awhile for doing something like spending time with you and/or the kids. Positive reinforcement doesn't just work on kids. 