You mean I wasted my breath? Oh well, maybe John needs to see it twice. But he still better not do the nasty or I'll make like mama and take him to the woodshed and give him the beating of his life. With ever lick, I'll say...."do you get it now?" "Will you ever have sex again as long as you live?" By that time he'll be agreeing to anything just to stop the beatings.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!