I took the advice of Robx and told H that I will arrange for MC, that I'm willing to put in the effort to correct my negative behaviours in our relationship. He has said that he does not want to talk either with or without a counsellor to begin with. He has asked me to write a letter about what I do and don't like, what I might like to change about myself or him – and he will do the same. He feels it's less confrontational and gives more time for consideration and reflection when the truth hurts. Not sure what will happen afterwards.
I have a decision to make regarding a planned trip to a convention to do with my hobby. It was planned a few months ago but now I don't feel like going. I'm not sure if it's because there is a tiny opening in communication with H and I want to be around in case he wants to talk or if it's because I feel I could better use the time to get myself together, and at least see an IC (if not a MC if H wants to).
What would some of you do?
Last edited by oncemore; 09/22/1012:46 AM.
Me: 40 H: 39 no kids together 8 years married 6 years bomb: 31 Aug 10
