While I'm not saying that he shouldn't do anything about the A, he should also go back and see what the real problems were in the R also.
A lot of your stuff is so centered around a person's A that it almost becomes obsessive.
According to most infidelity experts I've read repairing a marriage is next to impossible with an ongoing affair in the midst of it. Changes right NOW won't register all that much.
And did it ever occur to you Bond that I may be trying to OFFSET what is MISSING on this forum?
Who on earth said I don't support people making changes in themselves? I most certainly didn't.. And I HAVE advocated people changing themselves AS WELL AS combating the infidelity taking place.
"Obsessive?" I am simply working hard to offer a balance to a forum that doesn't press the panic button hard enough when someone threatens their family.
Committed is more accurate. And who on earth appointed me the sole voice for this forum anyways? Why on earth can't I offer targeted advice to a poster and leave the "work on you" stuff to yourself or someone else?
I am getting pretty frustrated with people and their amateur criticism in a visitor's thread to boot.
If you have issues with my posts or strategies Bond then open up a thread and stop picking fights where they don't belong.
Help the person above or take it outside please.
I will not reply to your criticisms of my posts any longer here.. I welcome them in a thread you create for that discussion... But I won't do it here.
