Thanks! I will send her an email since I do not know her phone number. You are right about the dating website...it is only speculating, which always my conscience to play tricks.
Remember you will have a 90 day cool down period in our state. If possible, get her to sign the agreement that works for you.
You have not taken the path to push this forward, be strong, be fair and REMEMBER, this is a business transaction and so act as such.
Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
Thanks for the advice. My L says that it will take 4 to 5 months before the D hearing....anything can happen by then. I plan to keep DBing and listen to all of the vets out there.
I just read a post from Jack 3 Beans that he had written to Faith about not pushing forward with his D, which is 8 days away. I am not sure how Faith can apply the brakes w/o looking weak and indecisive to his W and what methods he could deploy to successively stop the D.
I am at the same place. I don't want a D, but the advice is to protect myself financially and that if I love my W then I need to give her what she wants and let her go. So now I retained a L papers being processed and I am on the slippery slope of a D. I hope that I can find some toe holds and finger grips on the way down the D slope.
I had an appointment with my L thinking that all I had to do was sign the docs and the D process would begin. I had spoken with 4 L's and each had a different spin on my sitch and one kind of smarmie so I didn't want work with him.
Anyway, the L that I retained recommended that I have my W file for D...let her do the heavy lifting. He stated that since I did not build a large financial portfolio during the M and my W did that it would be in my favor.
How do I handle this sitch? I do not want a D, but only offered to retain a L and file for a D to protect my assets. My W who wants the D and is more than happy for me to do the heavy lefting and pay the bill will be pi$$ed when I tell her that she should file. How do I tell her and appear confident and decisive?
Just tell her that you had done alot of soul searching and have decided that you would like to still work things out. However, you understand that it is not what she wants, so if she would like to proceed with the D, then she will need to get the process started on her own.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
