Cas, I'm sorry. You are seeing some positive actions, but your H is still in replay. Considering that, and that you now know why he wanted the change of schedule, I would file it under cake-eating. I think I would tell him that it's best for you if you have a set schedule, and if he can't make it one week...well, you'll see him next week. And since he not only still has OW, but is bringing her into the family, I think I'd also back way off with contact. Forgive me if I've missed something important in your story that would change my mind, but that's how I see it right now.

((Cas))

M 65
H 64
T 39 & M 36 @ S 12/08
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Do you know that the harder thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing? Nothing that has meaning is easy. ~ The Weather Man