Dating is hard. And you are right. Lots of nutjobs out there with even bigger issues than my XW.
But you know what they say. You have to crack some eggs to make an omlet. On average the dating sites will tell you you will probably date five people before you meet one that is even compatible with you. Just have fun with the other four and make the best of it. It doesnt have to be hard or uncomfortable. If it is then don't date until you are truly ready.
I have found that the best dates are the ones you simply meet in public by accident. You just have to get out there.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me