Dating is hard. And you are right. Lots of nutjobs out there with even bigger issues than my XW.
But you know what they say. You have to crack some eggs to make an omlet. On average the dating sites will tell you you will probably date five people before you meet one that is even compatible with you. Just have fun with the other four and make the best of it. It doesnt have to be hard or uncomfortable. If it is then don't date until you are truly ready.
I have found that the best dates are the ones you simply meet in public by accident. You just have to get out there.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
Tough day today on the website dating scene: 1) After talking to someone for 10 minutes or less, laughing, etc, I got the "my friend Lynn is calling" and later found my email blocked
2) Someone else 'cut off' email after two really nice exchanges because one of my emails had 3 LOL's in it.
LOLOLOLOL (OK.....just for fun).
I usually get the kids on Saturdays because X works. She withheld them this week. My son told me that they just hung out at 'granny's'. We WERE supposed to offer them to the other spouse if we had to work on our weekend with them. S'OK. I really needed time to get my life daily's caught up.
S10 seems 'off'. I think he is entering that 'time'. He seems embarrassed by me at times, a bit ruder at times, smirking and making faces, reduced calling, etc. It's tough. I still get ILU's and 'miss you's' so I don't want to read into this too much.
I have to rethink GAL again. I feel stagnant, even with a ton of new things going on in my life. I think I have to go back to the drawing board.
FIB
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Hey Frank - My son turns 10 next week. He is a good smart boy, but I too notice some change. Maybe it is pre-teen time. XW and I are both on the same page - consequences.
As for the online dating - it is hard to read minds. For instance, I had a lady contact me saying she was interested and I responded. Then nothing. I just have the attitude that I am fishing - eventually the right one will strike the lure. Just be careful that the fish you land does not have salmonella.
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Me 55; XW 47; 2 kids (S13, D11) Bomb 05/19/06 Original thread http://tinyurl.com/yg2ou2t Last anniversary 04/25/10, Divorced 5/12/10 Status: Loving father of 2 beautiful children;
Frank - I think I am going to test the waters, myself. I have an eHarmony account. We'll see what happens. You are still a "newbie" to this single thing - yep, you have to go by the D date, not the bomb date. Don't be too apprehensive to just go it alone for a while and be comfortable in that - it really isn't a bad place (we only think it is since we've been so used to being part of a couple). Make sure you really get to know this Frank guy, so you will be able to recognize the kind of person who would fit well with him.
My son becomes 9 today. I notice the same things. His first reaction to anything I say is "NO". Then we finalyy communicate. I started a strictier "program" with the school' start. So far it has been working.
excellent! Hope you all are doing well, or at least pretty well. And after reading some other posts to long time "standers" (who probably are standing too long,) I think of your posts of awhile back frank. the one where you ask if it's not so smart at some point not to just quit. How do you tell someone it's time to GAL and move on and stop wondering why/what is happening to their WAS?
sorry for the hijack. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
Lol! I think today is Cougar Day or something, so far today I have had FOUR young men contact me, ages ranging 22 to 31 (note, I am 54). One chatted with me, and given he was smart and clever, I didn't mind, although I stated upfront that I didn't date younger men. He got all pissy with me eventually when he found he couldn't change my mind.
Interspersed with all this were emails from a Liberace-looking guy in his 60's who claimed to be a Vegas entertainer, and the usual assortment of guys who look like Santa Claus.
Not for me!
I am realizing now how extraordinarily lucky I was in my first foray into online dating. I met one slightly younger guy who was cute and smart and nice but no spark - we remain friends. Then the guy my age I dated for a year who, despite his issues, was sexy and smart and made me feel valued.
Now - nothing but Santa Clauses and creepy 20 somethings. Dang!
(My apologies to any DB guys out there who resemble Santa, nothing wrong with that, just not my type!)
