I agree. Those aren't boundaries. You are punishing her and treating her like a child. What does the breach in trust that she did to you have to do with trusting her with the dogs?
Boundaries are lines of bad behavior that you will not tolerate. You're just being vindictive. It's understandable. It's just not going to help your sitch much.
See now everything is just contary I quess.
Nobody has YET to tell me how I'm being Vindictive. How?
Because I won't let a cheater and compulsive liar in my house? The house and dogs she chose to leave? The dogs where she thinks it's only fair to come visit when SHE feels like it?
How do i know she will not bring him too? If she yanked her money when we had a verbal agreement am I to just say "Oh that's a one time thing" and let it go? Do I take a chance and have her come in and take MY stuff and MY dogs away?
Am I not just protecting myself?
It's a Boundary...Here it is re-written I WILL NOT TOLERATE ANYMORE CRAP BEHAVIOR!
