I agree with faith and everyone else. You neeeeeeeeed to stop playing her game. For your own sanity sake. Take it from me, i got hit with the 2x4 pretty early on this forum and it has done SO much for me. What I felt was wrong is turning out so right, in ways I can't even imagine yet. You need to. You must, do it for you. Please.
Me 30 H 29 DC 9, 7, 2 M 4 years, T 6 years ILYBINILWY Bomb: 8/8/10 He doesn't want to work, I'm slowly getting there too Physically separating end of September
Until you are able to deny her advances for physical affection this will continue. Each time you touch her all the power is returned to her.
You're right. I felt powerful as hell before she came over today. I felt powerful while she was here. I felt powerful as she lingered. I felt powerful when she cried.
I let my need to be powerful and the "rock" be mistaken as that shoulder to cry on for her. Big mistake.
Now that I think about it I don't feel nearly as powerful right now. Because of that. Damnit. Thank for the 2x4
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Let her be, she sucks you in, and she leaves with a grin, he still is in my grasp. Every time John, every frigin time. I dont know why i still post here, I almost think of you as a little brother, thats why. But as all family gets to a point, we can only help you out, until you stop listening and hit rock bottom on your own....
Got boxes yesterday from work and put them in the garage.
She came over today at lunch to my house since S4's pre-K is only 1 mile away from me, and I wanted to see him. She informed me that she got a job at a grocery store. I asked her if she was excited about it, since it was a new adventure. She's never had a job in her life. She asked for my help in filling out the tax information (W-4). I helped her only because I don't want her screwing up my taxes this year.
She welled up in tears and said NO she wasn't excited because it was an "f-ing grocery store job for minimum wage, nothing to be excited about." She then went into how she has no time anymore for anything because she's taking care of S4 during the day and going to work and school at night. She was crying the whole time.
I thought to myself - you know, you deserve this sh!t, W. You had it damn good while you were "in" a M with me. You stayed home all day and never had to work a job, you could go to school if you wanted, you could do anything you wanted to. You should have known it would be this hard. I didn't say that though. I just said, "Yeah...."
She's breaking down, starting to see this isn't the fairy tale that she thought.
Time to pack her crap up in boxes tonight and the next few days. I have to keep moving forward. I won't do it in front of my son though. I do not want him to remember that.
----"Et tu, Brute?"---- me:28 W:24 S4 T:6 M:4 EA Exposed: 5/21/10 Bomb: 6/20/10 (Father's Day) NC w/ OM: 7/10/10 W moved out 8/21/10 http://bit.ly/aOrZne - My sitch
Sometimes I wish my WAW would have showed signs of remorse, the I read your thread and say thank God I didn't have to go through this $$it!
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
It's easy to lose sight of how long you and I have been coping with our sitches (can't remember the other member of the Father's Day club). Go re-read all of your threads since that day. See how long you've spent to just get to where you are today. It'll motivate you to not waste another minute of your life in this sitch. God only gives us so much time on earth, don't squander that gift.
I agree! I am glad my W went dark on me. I don't think I could handle this roller coaster ride! I read John's thread and I am worn out, but part of me wants to reach in my computer and strangle him before his W does.
