Cyrena, my W is deep in MLC. Mentioned the EXACT same "control" issues. In fact, it's a fact in both scientific and public publications that "control" is one of the mitigating reasons why MLC'ers accuse their LBS of. True there may be things that happened in their past that they was out of their "control". But that's just it.
It's the mature understanding that you can't control other people and that you can only control your own actions, is the thing that MLCers refuse to acknowledge.
Nobody goes into an A or does something that is truly against their will. In the end, it's a personal decision.
So say for example if your H treated him unlovingly. Then it's his responsibility to get that resolved. But for him to blame it on an LBS "controlling" him because his mom did...it's not taking personal responsibility. It's turning blame/shame/pain/etc. onto someone else. There is no excuse for that.
Look at all the people who have actually emerged from the fog of MLC. Once they looked at their own actions and how they had hurt others, they learned that they had control all along.
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Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
