Originally Posted By: soleil


You are handling this perfectly. Good for you, Khudoo! smile


thanks Soleil,
I am really trying. I so want to ask her where she is going, who she is with but thanks to this forum and the good advice I receive I dont.

I would really like her to admit she is with someone else but not asking or seeming interested gives me an upper hand and makes me feel better, in control and more empowered. I thought i needed this for closure BUT I don't.

I know she is constantly expecting me to plead with her when we discuss things and in a way she seems disappointed when I don't. She is looking for excuses to dislike me but i wont give her any real ones. i make sure every financial and logistic decision i make is sound and sometimes bounce off mutual friends to see if they agree its fair and then explain it clearly to her.

I will be glad when she moves out as then it doesn't matter as it will be out of sight.

This has been a tough and very educational experience and the ride is not over yet ( but i think my M is ). I think whats harder than losing my W is losing my best friend and that sucks.

Khudoo