There is hope! Sorry you find yourself here, but it's a great place to start.
First off, stop blaming yourself. Your W cheated, it's her issue not yours. She can blame it on you about not "making" her feel attracted to you, etc. but in the end, she made the decision to do it and it's the most selfish thing someone could ever do.
STOP the crazy talk about giving up sex. That's the problem she "told" you so ending it isn't going to do much good.
Second, forget about the "marrying young" part. Lots of people marry young and are able to work things out. Age has nothing to do with commitment.
Could you fill us in on your R a little bit more? What were some of the sore spots? Also, fill in an address line with your age, your wife's, how many years married and together, whether you have kids, etc.
It'll help us in giving you the right type of advice.
Next I would suggest you read the Divorce Remedy and Sex Starved Marriage as soon as possible. It'll help you to see what we're talking about on these boards.
Is she still seeing the guy?
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
