Should I Tell Her to Move On???

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at what point did you become friends with your w

That is tough to answer...keep in mind, we were living together and sleeping in same bed (though only sleeping) and still doing family activities with kids and faking it around all friends and co-workers.
There was the hatred stage when I exposed EA, then ignoring me and treating me bad stage till I stood up for myself, then we just kind of eased back into friends as it was easiest to co-exist that way and we have so much in common. My sitch had the "advantage" in some respects that it was a long-distance, phone/computer EA...
So I'd say we became friends again in Feb or Mar. Just before piecing, although things were tense with upcoming separation, we drove across the country and as she said were good at taking care of each other and looking out for each other...we were good friends still...