Should I Tell Her to Move On???

[gutwrenching]

Openness along with giving/receiving will be critical in the beginning.

yes it is important

I am hestitate b/c I learned here that you can't rush this process. There are four stages the first being friendship.

Ok makes sense - I had the advantage is we were already strong into this stage when we started piecing

I'm not sure if she's serious about it yet.

That is important and you are going to have to make that determination. My W decided she was going to "try" a couple of times...and that was the word she used...she wasn't serious. She was confused and knew she shouldn't throw away the M but was still involved in EA and not committed. The "trying" didn't last long. This time she is committed and her actions show that along with the words this time. So yes, that is a key point for you to figure out.

Communication has been our number 1 problem and she still has difficulties with it. That's a big obstacle to overcome.

It is big and is always important, but with your DB "training" you can help lead you two through these struggles if you so choose. You have it in you.