The MLC'er doesn't want to be "controlled" by their LBS. The feeling of being "controlled" is only an excuse for them feeling unhappy. They feel that they don't have control over their feelings and need someone to blame. So when they look around, lo and behold, who is the closest one to them? The LBS. Don't pay any attention to that. In fact, call him out on it if he brings it up again. I did it to my W and magically the idea she was being "controlled" went away. They have to face the fact that THEY are responsible for their life choices. Not you or anyone else.
"I found out through a friend of mine that H is afraid if he tries to work our M out the family will disown him and that is his biggest fear."
Perfect example. He's being disowned anyway so why would working things out be any different? In fact they would probably be respect him more for showing an effort.
Don't let the "control" talks get you confused. You aren't controlling the sitch. He is.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
