] It has been a struggle of late to remain positive and optimistic aboiut R. Me? I'm doing well. But I would really like to succeed here. Mostly for my kids, but I do miss the companionship and affection. AND sandwiches.
But this Character difference is yet another thing that is weighing on my mind. Will it ever be thus? If we fix the R, will I be right back here in a few years? Well, strike that. I'll still be here, but I am never coming back to this place in my life. One of my boundaries going forward, should we put this back together, will be no more of this nonsense. I'm not losing any more time feeling like I did this time.
I think it's about really accepting your spouse for who they are, and not hoping/planning on changing them. As long as the character differences aren't completely conflicting, I think you can overcome most differences. I wouldn't want to be married to someone with the same personality as myself.
The 7 Levels of Intimacy has one central premise; Making yourself the best "You" that you can be. That every decision and action you undertake should be with this goal in mind; including your relationships. And that to be truly intimate you need to have your spouse seeking the same goal. Great book, but definitely not a light read.
Oh, and sandwiches. Starving right now. Thanks for bringing that up...
