coach had given me your sitch to reference. I got the call yesterday from W that she want to be with me.
I have completely detached and we even went to mediation this past weekend.
My mind frame was that I was moving on with my life and was looking to start dating again.
I am open to talks. First, I need to know that she is wanting to return for the right reasons.
Not b/c her family or friends influenced her or she has regrets or financial stress or the kids.
the second item is that even though she left and there wasn't an A going on, I know she has slpet with someone else. She does not know I know this.
Yesterday I told her she needs to find what makes her happy. I am not attractive to unhappy, negative people.
How should I proceed?
Methinks it's time to set boundaries and talk about them when the time is right.
You don't have to tell her that you know about the A. Let your boundaries make it clear that this is not something you'll ever tolerate.
I don't think bringing it up is productive right now. WAW's mindset during their detachement allows them to have an A justifiably. They see nothing wrong with it because they were separated from you anyway.
