Ok Jen, maybe that is not what you needed to do.

I am not blaming you for your H crisis.
I am now just talking about basic DB'ing.
Having a "beginners mind"

This is HARD STUFF I am talking about.
If it was easy then there would be no crisis.

I wish I could tell you that you did x,y, or z wrong but I can not.

I only know that he did not finish his crisis for whatever reason that might be.

Take a look at the 6 stages of MLC to begin with.
Did he complete every stage?

I haven't read your old threads but it appears to me that he started and you were back together within a short time(In MLC time)

Again I will reiterate.
I am NOT blaming you for his crisis.