No way I could put it better than Kalni. I will add that trust is tough...still a major issue for me, but I'm only 6 weeks into piecing. The toughest part for me was the relief I finally felt when I actually let go and was physically away from my WAW (she never actually left, so when we decided to start the process towards separation and divorce I felt immediate relief and peace after spending months of energy)...I wasn't sure I wanted to lose that feeling of relief.
But for me, it came down to two things: (1) the kids deserved my effort...they didn't deserve having their world rocked without a 100% effort to keep it together. (2) I came to this forum and read Michelle's book with a goal in mind to beat the odds and save the M...I had a chance to meet my original goal and learned how fortunate I was to even have that opportunity
After 6 weeks...no regrets...and it has NOT BEEN EASY...and I still don't trust...but we are working on it
M39 W41 Two children WAW bomb dropped 11/7/09 Piecing Aug 10 - Nov 10 No longer piecing...Nov 10 Separation Jan 11 EA ends again Feb 11 Piecing attempt #2, Mar 11