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I want to thank you for the EXCELLENT advise you gave!! You need to give yourself credit!

if you want to know how i dish the advise and 2x4s, you can check out my posts to someone by the alias 'lostnhurt'. he's a father of twin girls. badly in need of a kick in the pants. i think i got him moving down the right path.

the only time i give advice is when someone comes to me for it. several pages back on this thread, i said that people come to me for career mentoring. in general, i don't mentor them in their careers. i mentor them on life. i have a simple philosophy in life and that is to think of others, share your joy, find your passion, and be curious. these things will get you far in life. it certainly has done well for me.

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You do pretty good with the 2 x 4s.lol. I need to "confess" and yet--ugh--so embarassing! Enough about me!

hehe. sometimes i don't know my own strength when it comes to the 2x4. smile i'll pop over to your thread when you have an update.

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What's been happening??

a lot of thinking on my part.
questions like ..
what is important to me?
what did i make the decisions that i made? (ie. staying as opposed to going home)
what do i really want?
why do you want to be with someone who is hell bent on divorce and leaving you destitute .. someone who values things over you?

i still haven't figured out what's important to me .. it's not a question i want to answer right away. what's important to me today, may not be important to me tomorrow. so i need time to figure that out.

my home designer asked me why i stayed in a city where i didn't have any family. the decision to stay away from family and friends was a calculated decision on my part. people expected me to run home and seek comfort with my family. to me, that would have made me look weak. and i was not going to come out of this looking weak. yeah, i could have moved across the country to another city but that would still be running away and hiding. so i stayed. i will show you. i'm not going to go down like a defeated warrior in mortal kombat.

when i have my low moments, it's because the human side of me is hurting. my siblings are not very supported of me staying where i am. i know what i am doing is the right thing. i don't 'feel' that it's the right thing. i know it is. i grew up trusting my own instincts and it has never led me down the wrong path. as much as my family disapproves, i hope they will understand one day why i did what i did. my mom understands but my siblings? not really. and that stings .. as i am quite close to them.

i'm still thinking about this whole db-ing thing. i think i'm ready to give up saving my m. and focus on saving me. there are moments where i wish we could just get this d over with and not drag things out. i'm tired of sitting here waiting for the d papers to be served. that's like waiting for the reaper to come. that's not the way i want to live.

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