Australia

[AliSuddenly]

Hi Julia, sorry to hear that your exH is engaged. I hope he had the good grace to tell you himself, or did you find out through Facebook? Thats very fast hey.

But hey, he's not necessarily a loser, just human. H and you were pretty young when you married. My BFF here got married at the same age and was divorced by 27. She then married someone else a year later.. she was worried what people would think, whether it was too soon, but she genuinely feels he is the one and her exH wasnt. It can be as simple as that. You may find looking back that H wasnt the one either, despite the fact that you married him. I've often said, I had several long term lived-with bf's in my early 20's and theres no way I'd want to be M to any of them now! Break ups are always sh*tty though, of course.

Just trying to put a different perspective. But what do I know? Only that I've been cheated on by every guy I ever dated, including my current H even once.. so, theres alot of it about, sadly. Each time, I saw it in context and decided whether to forgive or move on. And I moved on from them all..apart from H, who was the only one who deserved my forgiveness and commitment. So thats how I handled it!

..and the new bf sounds very sweet!! You deserve it all xxx