We Fall Down, We Get Up

[AliSuddenly]

Hey guys.. well firstly, I disagree. I think we can and should change if someone brings out the best in us and teaches us something that means change is necessary/healthy. I think relationships are about compromise and growing and that involves changes too and thats a good lesson to learn. If I hadnt changed.. I frankly wouldnt be back with H now. I needed to change, for my own sake. Him leaving, however devastating, was the best thing that happened to me. It made me change in ways I definetly needed to for my own happiness, with or without winning him back.

Bobbi... I dont understand why you went outside and had that convo with Dan?? After the way you started this thread too. I think sweets, you have a job of letting go of things. You sure are stubborn!

What were you hoping to achieve by it? If it was a straight question about how to approach things with the kids, it could have come out differently, but it sounded like you were asking because you just want to know.

Why did you suggest to Dan..."If you have them 50% of the time,how about you spend the other 50% with her?" - didnt that make you feel humiliated, suggesting he see MORE of his girfriend? And then to go on to say 'OK, so you guys are going to date long distance for years? That doesn't sound worth it...'.. is that just wishful thinking?

Bobbi, I said it in my last post, its like groundhog day. Maybe you should consider changing habits of a lifetime that maybe arent really serving you?? Its kind of heartbreaking to see you still so not over him, but I understand how hard it must be. Afterall, Dan was your world, you were together since you were 16.