Good plan freespirit I really undertsand the "not being heard" and what they do "hear" is twisted and manipulated to fit their world view, not what your reality is in the room. Your reality is not allowed.
However, this reality is business, when one is negotiating in business one does not talk about their position until you are at the table with appropriate counsel present.
Wise strategy.
Take care of yourself. Peace Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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