K Thanks for your insights. On the phone yesterday I asked her what sh'e wants. She's was crying and said I want you I want to be with you.
I am opened to R talk but the one thing bothering me is her approach to the conversation yesterday.
She opened with "Mutual Friend gave me the hard sale this morning"
I interpret this as since our MF said a few things about you maybe I should think about coming back.
It's like early on in my sitch when she came back one mornig to my surprise and I asked her what's going on. Her reply was her mom told her to go back.
Other people telling you what to do won't work.
I need to know she's doing it for the right reasons.
She has to show me she's willing to do the work.
She need to show me she can be happy.
I have worked too hard and respect myself to much to go back to an unhealthy M.
As for it being different which S walked away male or female your right Kalni it is different.
I have to show her I am leading and confident where has if a H was going back to W the dynamics are different.
Still one day at a time.
Pride can be a bitch. (mindreading mode) She might be using the MFs (I keep thinking that means mofo...) advice as an excuse instead of openly admitting that she wants back in, and that the MFs advice supports it. KWIM?
