No, IMO it is not safe. And maybe it is different for men but my H never pleaded and cried and begged. But then, on the other hand, I have yet never treated him the way he did.
No, the way I see it, they will NOT act as LBSs. They know, or at least are prepared for what is coming, they caused it, they had time to think about and even prepare for a rejection. We, LBSs, call it "the bomb". For them coming back, a rejection can never be considered a bomb. I hope you get my English and the difference I am trying to point out, only to protect you from expectations that have to do with "show".
You know what my husband shows now, as I did back then? Patience and CONSISTENCY. He wont back off when I tell him I am not "there" yet, he is the hopefull one, he is keeping this together.
But no, he didnt beg, or anything like that. He stated his wish, he used my words as far as the importance of our M (honestly, it felt like I was listening to myself), but there have been no dramatic gestures and moves.
Maybe your wife, as a woman, depending on her character will give you that, but if she doesnt, that doenst necessarily mean she is not "in" which is what you must figure out. Is in IN for the tough ride or is it just a "maybe".... K
