They have to do this by themselves. We are the last people they want to point out the obvious. They'll just resent us more You let them go to walk their path. Where they end up is anyone's guess. Just remember, their past and present behavior doesn't equal their future behavior. If it was like that, none of us would be here. We got the epiphany, you can't guess if they will or won't. Absolutely impossible. They thought we would never change so they were wrong.
I like this a lot. It's fairly obvious DB stuff but there is something about the way you said it that I hope others will see, too.
Originally Posted By: Steady
I think you're searching for an answer you won't ever get. I believe it's just not possible because there are basically an infinite amount of variables.
It boils down to this - they are doing what they are doing and it doesn't matter why. Knowing why doesn't change anything. Sure, you see their issues and what those issues did. But it makes no difference except if they want to return. Then you have solid things you both need to work on.
You do the work on yourself. They walk their path - either their paths cross ours again or it doesn't. I have no clue how the future will unfold. But I am responsible for me, and my W is responsible for herself. Period.
