Once he calls, I plan to say that divorce is not what I want but I understand that he wants it and I don't want a marriage where I'm not respected and I don't feel loved/wanted. Is that confusing? I do want to say that I don't want a divorce, but is it counterproductive? Should I agree to it without saying I don't want it? Please give more more advice on how to handle this conversation and what to say there. Should I be upbeat?
Hey Ris! (found you)
I still think you should say something along the lines of "While I do not agree with your decision, I respect it. Please call me on X-day so that we can discuss the details of this furhter." And leave it at that. At this point, I don't consider this pursuing. I don't consider it pursuing because of the fact that he has told you over an email (sheesh) that he wants a D. You have a right to know more about paperwork, etc. Should he not bite and ignore you (which would be super immature), get your own L and prepare for this. Well, in the interim I believe you should talk to some Ls anyway (start calling around today).
I wouldn't sound overly excited when you talk to him. Just keep it clean and "professional"--like how you would talk to a boss. I am unsure of whether you should mention how you don't feel loved/wanted. Perhaps you could say something like, "I do not want to be M'ed to someone who does not want to be M'ed to me" should he bring something up...
I know this royally sucks but ... you will be fine. Trust me.
