I got an email back from H this morning: "I'll get you the paper work in two weeks or so.
goodbye."
Sorry to hear that, Ris, especially sinec he said it over an email, not even in person over the phone. It's immature, IMO but that is not important right now.
Right now is a good time to start calling some Ls in your area for free consultations. It is extremely important that you protect yourself. Cannot stress the importance of representation.
As far as assets, joint accounts, you say you have none which if the D does actually go through, it will make for an easier D. I know that sounds weird but if you have kids, properties, joint accounts, etc, it gets a LOT more complicated.
As for telling other people--you don't have to tell anyone anything that you are not comfortable telling them. Say wahtever you want.
As for the WHY? question... I think a lot of us want to know that.
It's the million dollar question of how someone vowed to love you yet wants out of the M. All I know is that if the other person says they want a D, believe them and let go as gracefully as possible. If someone gets to the point where they file, take them at their word. No one knows what the future holds but if their actions lead them to that, then all you can do is go with it.
I will check out your other thread. Does that mean you will stop posting here?
