WAW wants to be alone.

[Stubborn-Male]

I am taking some time to decide what I want out of life. I seem to have spent all of my life pleasing partners and not pleasing myself. I have to decide what I wantm out of life, it's not easy.

I am recovering well from my illness, though physical excercise is hard. I am taking good care of my self and grooming, and socialising. I am decorating and renovating the house.

I am doing what I want to do, in a constructive manner. I am repairing myself mentally after a stressfull two years with illness and wife leaving.

I am not talking to my wife at the moment, for three weeks (my choice), she only wants to talk about financial settlement and I think it is too early for that.

I am not concerned with what my wife is doing, I am just letting her get on with what she wants to do, to be alone. I am trying hard to be unpredictable, or doing 180 from what she would expect me to do normally.

I am prepared to end the marriage in divorce if I have to, though I choose to remain married.

She took her wedding ring off after five weeks away, I took mine off last friday; symbolic I know but it was hard for me.

I am doing all I can think of at the moment to let her go, and find her own way out of this. I have the feeling now that if she wants to come back or start reconnecting, the door is open a little, but I will decide if she can come in.

Of course any suggestions are welcome.