Hopefully others will chime in but I think a week is way too long. IIRC many people who have been in a similar position give the WAS in an affair just 5 min. to make their decision. I am thinking Puppy posts often about this when offering advice so maybe you can do some research on what is "best".
I guess what many people are trying to say is when a WAS ends an affair it has to be on the own accord completely and totally.
If he sees boundaries in a different way than you do then one of you doesn't understand boundaries. Boundaries are designed to create a healthy R with yourself! My H said the same thing all the time - my boundaries were control. My boundary was clear - I did not ask him to make any choice but as long as he was with OW there would be no further movement on our R. So the choice was his and I do believe he had all the information to make the choice he thought was best. He chose her. But he did that with his own freedom and me not saying "this or that".
