WAW EA told her to leave

[DangerDave]

soleil - well the D and out comment came from a heated "discussion" where we both lost it one evening, tension around the house had been building and I had called her out on another developing EA she was getting herself into. My boundary is she can have any "friendships" she wants, but any with men will require her to leave the family home period. The he's like a brother to me is BS - she has 3 brothers that she doesn't see more than 4-5 times a year. Some guy hanging out with her at coffee as a buddy after the gym every morning just doesn't work for me!

As for her seeing a L yet - not that she has said and no checks or expenses to any that I can see. She has another "best friend" who got dumped by her husband about 10 months ago feeding her all kinds of info - even found copies of income and expense declarations (not completed or attempted)that her divorced pal gave to her. Sad thing is her pal is from my side of the fence - didn't want a D and was the primary income provider as well - so I would think a fair amount of her "help" my be opposite of what my W would need anyway. It's beyond irritating having her trying to drag my W into the D world with her - my W even says she's a total downer and her life pretty much sucks. I did tell the W during the discussion to join her and all her other D friends, they all seem to be having such a great time with their lives (insert extreme amount of sarcasm) as we both know how screwed up each and everyone of them are!

To each their own - I'm having fun, don't care about her emotions and the W is always angry and on edge around the kids and myself too, can't hardly say hello without her bracing for an argument or terse comment back - I'm nice and friendly on a regular basis still!

DD