A_goodman, I have been reading along your thread since you started it. I have only replied once or twice, but I have been reading along. Almost every word you have uttered here, especially today, I could have written and definitely felt or thought. I completely understand and feel for you. I hope that I can get stronger so that I can be where you are now. You get to make the choices now and she is no longer in control. I have some different issues to work through than you, but our wives might be twins in what they say and how they act. I frankly am tired of it and I hope to keep learning from your thread. Keep strong, and I hope you work things out the way that is beneficial to you and your family. I will keep watching here. Good Luck I am behind you.