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[MichelleLT]

Ummm, that was bad timing to ask right then and there. Especially since you had to leave to get your mom. If you want to have a talk, you have to have time to have a talk.

He didn't say he didn't love you.

He just asked why there has to be a label on it. And he kind of has a point. While you two obviously need to work on your communication skills, he is ACTING like your husband. And actions usually speak louder than words. Especially in a man who is so horrible at expressing his feelings.

He obviously feels guilty about leaving you both, he wants to be back in your lives.

Rather than "I love you more than you love me" you should have said something like "I love you and love having you in Marc and my lives".

If it's that important to have a label on it, to be officially boyfriend and girlfriend or significant others, than TELL him that. Directly.

If this is stemming from your insecurity because he left before, then tell him that too. Say, I am having a difficult time with this because I am unsure what pushed you away before. Or I am having a hard time living with you and not being married because or religion / the past / my insecurities / whatever it is.

I understand how difficult the situation is for you. I understand that because you've been bottling it up the emotions just came pouring out. That's exactly why it's important to address issues instead of letting them fester.

(((Mishka)))

I'm sorry how everything went down. I know that wasn't what you wanted to hear.