I completely understand your anxiety. It's something that I have to prepare myself for. Like you, after my W dropped the bomb, her mind was made up. She would occasionally waiver but was never wholeheartedly trying to save the M.
I hate the fact that it is in the hands of a lawyer and judge. We have to accept that it is also in the hands of God and he will not abandon us.
Take care of yourself. It helps to know you're not alone. Too many of us are in the same boat. I can't stand who my W has become. I tried just like most of us have.
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I really think that saving a marriage is an honorable undertaking.
It is, and we can be proud of ourselves for trying.
Nothing really new happening with my sich. Yesterday Sunday me and D10 met the lawyer at his office, D10 visited with my lawyer for 30 minutes, at the end my lawyer talked to me, and told me he had all the information that he needed. He told me that he can not predict the future but my wife is behaving as bad as any woman he has seen in 30+ years of experience. When the meeting was over L told me to relax, keep being the good dad, and let him do his job. D10 then told him that her mother was talking on the phone to BF#2 on Saturday saying how I was retarded for even thinking about getting custody of the kids because there was no way that would ever happen, L’s only response was to shake his head and say Oh Really. Last year S7 made strait A’s the full year not one B, last week he got his first progress report all C’s with 1 F a 27 in math, my lawyer said S7 grades falling will hurt her almost as much as introducing my kids to 6 men in 4 months. Some of the men my STBEX has introduced, went to lunch with my kids is quite shocking, knowing her history a complete 180 from the way she has lived her life up to this point. All infidelity is shocking, but when the last 2 OM are from a race she has been terrified of her entire life it becomes triple shocking to me. To put it another way I can guarantee that she has not introduced OM 4 & OM5 to her parents, like she did OM2 & OM3. D10 informed me yesterday there is OM6, now and she is back with OM2 who she broke up with 2 weeks ago.
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
Being a bad spouse is one thing but when you disregard the impact your actions will have on the kids, well, there should be a stoning.
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Bomb 8/09. Brief piecing 12/10. D-2/12 Two incredible kids D9,S6 Leading new life! “Success is not to be pursued; it is to be attracted by the person we become."
The idea of one OM gives me sleepless nights. Maybe 6 would make it easier to sleep?
One more and you would have a different dream for every night of the week.
Six gives you one nights rest each week. Oh who am I joking I could never keep up!
M40, W 37 M 11 1/2 y T 13 y D filed 5-18-10 S 5-29-10 OM1 discovered 6-5-10 Counter sued for d 6-16-10 OM2 discovered 8-10-10 OM3, OM4 4 kids 10, 7, & 3 D date 10-14-10 http://tiny.cc/mxzct
