OK, I read your last few posts on newcomers as well.
First of all, friends and family: it can embarassing but at the end of the day, they all go back to THEIR families, and those who do care about you, will eventually accept your decision if you do decide to give it a try.
Second and most importantly for me was what Michelle here and other "experts" believe: love IS a decision. We as LBSs have been trying to make our spouses see that and come back, now the tables turned, we need to walk the talk as well (not NEED but you know what I mean)
OM and OW: for me it was cheating. My biggest obstacle.Cant give you advice on that other than it takes a lot of strength.
Trust: for me it is a time issue granted both partners are on the same wave length as far DOING it (not trying).
Have you heard the egg and the chicken thing? Unless you feel that she wants it, you cant be sure you want it. Same can be true for her.
Ohhh, it is the toughest place to be. One you worked your a$$ off to get to. But that doesnt mean you should do it with all costs. Is it too late? You know that answer.
If it fear that is holding you back... well, that's normal and wise. Recognise it and deal with it. Hugs K
PS Sleep disorders etc: I assume you have that tackled?
PS2 Read Passionate Marriage and then Intimacy and Desire by D. Snarch. For me things in these 2 books were precious and still are. My husband cant read them, we are Greek and they havent been translated. Your wife would?
