Your W might very well be moving towards something, it's just not the movement you had hoped. Sometimes people(s) have to hit their bottom before anything more can happen. It's tough though because everybody has a different "bottom".
And maybe things can be put back together in some capacity. It might not be how you had initial hoped but repair on some level is always possible.
All true, CG.
I guess to get to this place for myself, I've had to put compassion on the back burner for now. I know she is hurting, too, in her own way. I can see myself being cordial for the kids but no other relationship. No friends, or buddies or pals, KWIM?
To me, repair would mean doing the very hard work of actually trying to each face our faults and working together to overcome them. I am there. She is not. Of course, she never had the bomb that I did to shake me up.
I may be missing your point, CG, but I don't see us being anything but co-parents. I know I am still hurting and I can't see the future. There is only one way to repair the M. There are several things I can do for myself. Things I can do to lessen the impact on the kids. I will do my best.
