I don't know if it's LBS fog or reality. This whole mess causes us to look within like never before. I have come to the realization that there were a lot of things I didn't like about my W and our relationship but didn't bring them up thinking it was a "normal" part of M and they were small things that would just go away with time.
Now I know the only normal thing to do is to bring things up and talk them out. It is, in fact, our responsibility to do so. The things I didn't like about her could have been either changed on her part or better understood on mine. And vice-versa. It is always a two way street.
You have been an extremely fast learner here. I have been just the opposite. I just got off the phone with my L and am going in tomorrow morning to sign the papers. It's time to let it all go. The LBS becomes the WAS. The difference is all we have learned about ourselves and have taken the steps to improve. My W has her mom and dad who have offered to help her out financially. She really has no clue as to how hard this will be or what it will do to the kids. NO CLUE. She just wants out.
Anyway, I think you have simply come to the point where you realize that your W isn't the one to make you happy. She isn't your whole world, even though it felt like it when she said she wanted out. You know the two of you, together, could "adapt and overcome". If she's not interested, you understand that you did your best and will, eventually, be better off without the poison she is bringing into the relationship.
I don't think the fog is contagious. I think that, without realizing it, you are seeing things more clearly that ever.
